Low Latent Inhibition - Great or Nah?

Brain dump -

Do you have LLI (Low Latent Inhibition)? This is a very unique mental and personality issue it seems by online research. Its also hard to diagnose according to many psycho-therapists. Is it possible that ADD, ADHD, Autism, even photogenic memory is actually this? Any articles show that with this issue, there is a fine line between "slow" and "genius". Not sure what I would be as I have most of the aspects listed below... in fact, all but one: no verbalization. I tend to over explain because I don't think the person is understanding my thoughts. I also found an article stating that this "issue" can set the stage for schizophrenia - not really good new for me, especially considering I'm a Gemini as it is.

I find it very interesting because I know some people written off as day dreamers, tunnel vision or impatient/rude/condescending. Is it possible that this person PERCEIVES and PROCESSES differently so it becomes hard to connect to their peers' general wavelengths? Assuming that is true, being in any non-casual relationship would be hard for the person....unless they found an exact match. This type can adapt quickly but I'm assuming it is when what needs adapting make sense using THEIR PROCESS/PERCEPTION (value and logic).

I was told in my annual performance and team review that I had a "low intolerance for incompetence". I would think to myself: I know I don't think I'm better (most of the time) and I know some people just don't know better. Therefore why was I so tough as times? I know now....I cant stand people that say "I don't know". Why? Because I already know the answer or know how to get the answer so I CAN'T understand, or relate to someone that needs spoon feeding. It beyond me how someone can't critically think through what I perceive to be simple information. Worst, I cant understand how people process experience/sight/sense/information heard, casually. For example, people whose ears hear, but aren't listening to understand. Or eating without really tasting. Doing what they are told, without knowing why, for what purpose, or what it contributes to. Its like being alive without living.

Anyway...
Have you ever been stuck in traffic and in the quiet of your mind imagine what you would do civil-engineering and transportation design wise to fix it?
Do people come to you for ideas, problem solving and clarity?
Do you find yourself sometimes more involved with others than with yourself?
Do you watch the news, or meet new people asking yourself alot of "whys and how comes" then come up with pros and cons for both sides within minutes?
Do you find yourself blocking out the world, not blinking and processing a bunch of variables to something that has caught your attention? Kind of like playing chess in your mind - playing both sides?
Sometimes what catches your thoughts is completely relevant to you and your life but you just can stop until you figure it out..
Do you find yourself interrupting others all the time BUT its because you understand and you want them to move along? finishing others sentences, even when you just met them?

Then you may have LLI.

(list below copied and pasted from psychforums.com)

Pros:

- You notice more, hear more, smell more and feel more through tactile contact. Without any conscious effort, your mind is in possession of a broader intake of information.
- Upon encountering any form of stimulus (that interests you), your mind automatically dismantles and explores its components.
- You usually see through the lies and the deceptions that people use in everyday life. If you’ve watched the show Lie to Me, they would call you a “natural”.
- When learning, you can often make instantaneous changes. Adaptation is easy.
- Self-correction is easy because the underlying principle is more evident. Clearer.
- You make connections and associations between seemingly unrelated material.
- Comprehension is typically easy. You notice the non-verbal background information and this often provides a more comprehensive picture than what is being spoken.
- There are exponential leaps of insight taking place all the time, with the background reasoning intact. Wave-upon-wave of permutations, options, variables and choices.
- Creativity is a given. You see alternatives.
- You notice things that other people miss
- Leaps of logic are common. Instead of progressing A,B,C,D and onward, you skip from A to N to Z, accurately.
- There is no talking voice in your head. No ‘chattering monkey’. The volume and complexity of the information at times drowns out conscious thought entirely.
- You see the world more thoroughly.
- Learning is not limited to defined periods of academic study. The assimilation of information is constant, ongoing and never static. There are no lulls or pauses. Everything offers a lesson.
- Within the maelstrom of information there exists a place of calm and quietude. The eye of the storm. No verbalization exists. No internal narrative. Just presence. No sense of self to intrude of interrupt.

Cons:

- Education is awkward. Schools are not set-up to cater with this condition. The way in which things are approached by schools seems piecemeal and incomplete.
- Listening to other people talking/thinking aloud can be infuriating. They are at point A when you have reached point N or Z already.
- It is difficult to write/type/speak quickly enough to articulate ideas and the breadth of the permutations involved. Verbalizing what takes place in your mind is impossible. Words render only a fraction of the entirety.
- Tact is necessary since people lie constantly.
- LLI makes driving a car difficult. Your brain notices countless dangers and variables, and you become overwhelmed and nervous. You are either a terrible driver, or an incredibly good one.
- Hyper-vigilance can lead to anxiety, and sometimes OCD-like tendencies.
- Illusions are not very effective. You see through things without wanting to. Conventions and traditions have no significance.
- You do not value what other people value, and often feel truly unique/alone.
- Filtering out the variables and honing your options to something workable can be very difficult.Every solution potentially harbors new problems, new variables and new concerns.
- People may find you to be a little odd, unorthodox or a little intense.
- You have a habit of saying things that do not fit the accepted norm of behavior. You often choose to disregard conventions because they serve no constructive purpose.
- Background noise is a major problem. Noisy neighbors can cause serious stress.

IT IS WHAT IT IS - Friend with benefits

This is a post about the hush hush topic of the booty calls, ore specifically the "friend" with benefits. This type of relationship is one that is supposed to be based on mutual understanding of privacy, undefined timelines (continuance and frequency) of the encounters, comfort with the partner, ease combined with access and primarily physical with a small percentage based on a "click". This is to be the simplest form of sexual encounters which has some dignity, not to mention, a better sense of dependability, above the one-night-stand.

Attraction + Access + Horny + Clarity on in-exclusivity and maybe some conversation and cuddling to boot = Perfection for a single person (hopefully)! This is trully THE cake and eating it too (no pun intended).

So why do some people make it so damn complicated???

This is why I decided to write a non-exclusive list of that it takes to make this kind of a relationship work and not (Disclaimer - IF a serious relationship is not what you or they don't want any time soon):

1- It won't last forever so you always have to be prepared to let it go. Why? Maybe one of the partners starts dating someone else seriously and doesn't want to cheat. Maybe the naughty allure goes away and it becomes habitual. Maybe there is just a better option. Maybe you/they think because you/they are violating some of the rules in this list that you are getting attached. Whatever it is, you just have to keep in mind to enjoy it while it lasts.

2- NEVER discuss anything which includes both of you in future tense, especially if it doesn't include a bed or place where sex is possible. Example: let's go to the beach next week....Will you be here this weekend (unless you or they live out of town)...Uh I think I'm going to have my period...Me and the Boys are going to watch the game on Friday, wanna come? Why?.. because this will share the crap out of a commitment phobe. It gives the impression that the relationship is less about the "urge and click" and becoming part of the life and company...maybe more.

3- GUYS: If you start inviting a girl out in public and hanging out with her just for company , there is a 80% chance that no matter how "cool" and "understanding" she is, she is going to start getting mixed signals. At least 50% are going to think..."wow, I'm sure there are other girls and he asked me". She may say that to some of her lonely friends or mother desperate to get her married then they start feeding her with HOPEFUL stories (ref my blog post called Cover to my pot..the Story continues). Then you add confusion. This is not fair to her.

4 -GALS: Don't enter this type of an arrangement hoping that he'll change his mind and make you his girl. I've heard this a million times!! AHHH! The "you-never-know" girls. The "I-can-change-him" chicks. The "I'm-the-best-for-him" dreamer. The he-keeps-coming-back-for-more" delusion. One thing most women don't get is the "IT IS WHAT IT IS" concept. We are feed so many fairy tale endings that we create in our mind an ideal ending before the characters are even in play! This has a 15% chance in my observation. ONLY in Poker can one, place an all-in bet on a 15% probability and hoping to win on a bluff. You are his go-to, reliable, understanding, easy sex partner. He has to become the same thing to you in your mind. Nothing more , nothing less. Anything that grows out of that should be a cherry on the cake and surprise.

5- NEVER say "we need to talk". There are only a few things that means and none of it is good. Pregnancy, STD, Money loan request, Relationship future clarity, Feeling discussion or ending things. Unless you have money missing from your wallet, those are the only topics I can come up with. Anyone of those topics can destroy the entire thing so be realistic of the possible consequences. I suggest dropping some hints, using stories of other people (real or imaginary) and see how they react first.

6- GALS: Don't go over if you have your period. Period.

7- Don't call/text everyday and/or hook up more than 3 times a week....you are edging towards "serious" territory

8- Don't be shocked if you see them in public with another person. Remember, you are supposed to be understanding. you are supposed to be dating others too. Give a casual wave or if close, cheek kiss. Also you have no right to get jealous. Remember just because you decided, your partner is enough for your urges, doesn't mean its the same for them. So don't try to kill their game! And, don't ask follow up questions unless they volunteer. finally, don't hate on the other person. IT IS WHAT IT IS.

9- If condoms are not being used, that's yo problem (with gangster swag). What me to use another gambling analogy? Didn't think so. You got it...

10- You must NOT leave your belongings at their place! no toothbrushes, underwear, gym bag..whatever. Its a game kill AND territorial! this over steps the boundaries again.

11- Don't go telling everybody. Have some decency and respect towards the other person. Jeez! We are not in high school anymore (at least I hope no one that needs this advice is..eek!)

12- These relationships are not supposed to have fights or be therapy sessions. They are meant to be freeing, fun, relaxing, and as nasty as you want to be. Check your issues and "am I fat" questions at the door. Once sensitivities, jealousy, personal issues, ex s (or currents), etc come into play....its time for an exit strategy.

BONUS and BIGGIE: Valentine's Day...hummmm. Do you give something or not? What if they don't get you anything? Something small? What if I give off the wrong signal? What if they think I'm over stepping the boundaries?... Come on people! It's Valentine's day and you guys have SEX so be mature and nice..just give them something. Panties, body oil, new sheets? Whatever represents your arrangement. Nothing too personal, at least the first year or if Valentine's day falls within the first 4 months of your encounters.

Now the real question is whether you guys should spend it together.....

I'm not a genius folks. Figure the last bit yourselves because I have no idea. :-)

Ps..Other DISCLAIMER...Percentages above do not represent and real quantitative analysis... my random assumptions. LOL