Hate "Love"? The Terror of Understanding

 Rant from an inquiring mind: Hate "love"?
(It's a long read.... But I know I have some awesome readers here)

Why is hate so easily understood and spread but love mystifies. It takes the same passion and energy to do both. Maybe the word love makes people feel weak and vulnerable. Even in personal relationships, one person always wants the upper hand by showing less love or committing less to avoid it. 🤔

What if to not scare control-preferring people, for now....and use the words "hate" and "understand"?  Let's scale back "love". I will give it a try.

I don't hate all white people or Christians because of several mass shootings this year alone (won't even go back to history) was done by a Racist Christian. I understand that not all whites like country music, have sex with cousins, like bland food, want guns and prefer women with no booty.

I'm not going to hate all Muslims (or think all Muslims are sexually confused)  because 1 self hating psychopath shoots up a night club. I understand and also know they aren't all wife beating, hate preaching, anti-Christians that like explosives.  

I'm not going to call all Mexicans criminals because of the drug lord and his goons. I also won't be a hypocrite while I plan trips to Tulum, party on Cinco de Mayo, eat tacos, put salsa on the fridge, hire them for construction work, and forget the wealthiest man in the world is Mexican from legit business. I also won't forget that a percentage of Trump's clothing line is made there.

Not all Hispanics dance and watch Telenovelas all day.
Not all Italians know how to make pizza.
Not all Jews are great at accounting.
Not all Asians are good at math or do martial arts.
Not all Africans live in huts.
Not all Indians own conveniences stores and are vegetarians
Not all gays are men. The gay males don't all dress like women. They aren't all in theater or fashion.


Silly isn't it? Why? Because we are more to open them which makes us understand them better.  We also understand, for example, just because some of the best pizzas are made by Italians and it comes from Italy, doesn't mean they all know how to make it or that any pizza-making Italian can make it well. Right?

Math teachers - correct me if I'm wrong. The above is called an if-then proposition in rational/math studies. Example:  If chickens lays eggs and are birds. Frogs lay eggs. Frogs are birds. That's called "affirming the consequent" which is a FALLACY in LOGIC. To make general assumptions leading to conclusion without acknowledging variables that make them different? Tends to lead to ILLOGICAL / IRRATIONAL conclusions.

I don't want all whites to hate me because of what some low life gang member in Compton says or does against whites and police. Thank you to those that understand.

So for those who like to lump people in one large basket........... I'm NOT a/an:

Ignorant, lazy, classless, cat eating, voodoo priestess, AIDS ridden, promiscuous, pregnant teen, loud music blasting, baby pushing, anti-white, police hating, food stamp using, kool aid drinking, gold teeth wearing, gun carrying, refugee, illiterate, over-sensitive, fatherless angry-black-female with a pre-disposition to violence and begging for hand outs.

Open yourself to making a Muslim, Mexican, Jewish and Black friend as you've done with me. It may shock you that you understand more.

For those that judge people by their names...yes... My name isn't Mary Joe, Suzy Lynn, Becky, Jane or Kathy. But just like you may realize Pauldine may show some understanding ....I am an average human. Average Humans stand erect, breath oxygen with lungs on earth, eat cooked food,  have a heart, feelings, a brain, can think, can rationalize, can read/write/speak, want to be treated with understanding. You are an average human . Jose, Dashaun, and Saud Mohammed have exact same qualities of an average human. Is it possible that Jose, Dashaun and Saud are average humans like you and me? What is the logical answer?

Can't shout "one love" yet? Then, start by understanding ONE.

Low Latent Inhibition - Great or Nah?

Brain dump -

Do you have LLI (Low Latent Inhibition)? This is a very unique mental and personality issue it seems by online research. Its also hard to diagnose according to many psycho-therapists. Is it possible that ADD, ADHD, Autism, even photogenic memory is actually this? Any articles show that with this issue, there is a fine line between "slow" and "genius". Not sure what I would be as I have most of the aspects listed below... in fact, all but one: no verbalization. I tend to over explain because I don't think the person is understanding my thoughts. I also found an article stating that this "issue" can set the stage for schizophrenia - not really good new for me, especially considering I'm a Gemini as it is.

I find it very interesting because I know some people written off as day dreamers, tunnel vision or impatient/rude/condescending. Is it possible that this person PERCEIVES and PROCESSES differently so it becomes hard to connect to their peers' general wavelengths? Assuming that is true, being in any non-casual relationship would be hard for the person....unless they found an exact match. This type can adapt quickly but I'm assuming it is when what needs adapting make sense using THEIR PROCESS/PERCEPTION (value and logic).

I was told in my annual performance and team review that I had a "low intolerance for incompetence". I would think to myself: I know I don't think I'm better (most of the time) and I know some people just don't know better. Therefore why was I so tough as times? I know now....I cant stand people that say "I don't know". Why? Because I already know the answer or know how to get the answer so I CAN'T understand, or relate to someone that needs spoon feeding. It beyond me how someone can't critically think through what I perceive to be simple information. Worst, I cant understand how people process experience/sight/sense/information heard, casually. For example, people whose ears hear, but aren't listening to understand. Or eating without really tasting. Doing what they are told, without knowing why, for what purpose, or what it contributes to. Its like being alive without living.

Anyway...
Have you ever been stuck in traffic and in the quiet of your mind imagine what you would do civil-engineering and transportation design wise to fix it?
Do people come to you for ideas, problem solving and clarity?
Do you find yourself sometimes more involved with others than with yourself?
Do you watch the news, or meet new people asking yourself alot of "whys and how comes" then come up with pros and cons for both sides within minutes?
Do you find yourself blocking out the world, not blinking and processing a bunch of variables to something that has caught your attention? Kind of like playing chess in your mind - playing both sides?
Sometimes what catches your thoughts is completely relevant to you and your life but you just can stop until you figure it out..
Do you find yourself interrupting others all the time BUT its because you understand and you want them to move along? finishing others sentences, even when you just met them?

Then you may have LLI.

(list below copied and pasted from psychforums.com)

Pros:

- You notice more, hear more, smell more and feel more through tactile contact. Without any conscious effort, your mind is in possession of a broader intake of information.
- Upon encountering any form of stimulus (that interests you), your mind automatically dismantles and explores its components.
- You usually see through the lies and the deceptions that people use in everyday life. If you’ve watched the show Lie to Me, they would call you a “natural”.
- When learning, you can often make instantaneous changes. Adaptation is easy.
- Self-correction is easy because the underlying principle is more evident. Clearer.
- You make connections and associations between seemingly unrelated material.
- Comprehension is typically easy. You notice the non-verbal background information and this often provides a more comprehensive picture than what is being spoken.
- There are exponential leaps of insight taking place all the time, with the background reasoning intact. Wave-upon-wave of permutations, options, variables and choices.
- Creativity is a given. You see alternatives.
- You notice things that other people miss
- Leaps of logic are common. Instead of progressing A,B,C,D and onward, you skip from A to N to Z, accurately.
- There is no talking voice in your head. No ‘chattering monkey’. The volume and complexity of the information at times drowns out conscious thought entirely.
- You see the world more thoroughly.
- Learning is not limited to defined periods of academic study. The assimilation of information is constant, ongoing and never static. There are no lulls or pauses. Everything offers a lesson.
- Within the maelstrom of information there exists a place of calm and quietude. The eye of the storm. No verbalization exists. No internal narrative. Just presence. No sense of self to intrude of interrupt.

Cons:

- Education is awkward. Schools are not set-up to cater with this condition. The way in which things are approached by schools seems piecemeal and incomplete.
- Listening to other people talking/thinking aloud can be infuriating. They are at point A when you have reached point N or Z already.
- It is difficult to write/type/speak quickly enough to articulate ideas and the breadth of the permutations involved. Verbalizing what takes place in your mind is impossible. Words render only a fraction of the entirety.
- Tact is necessary since people lie constantly.
- LLI makes driving a car difficult. Your brain notices countless dangers and variables, and you become overwhelmed and nervous. You are either a terrible driver, or an incredibly good one.
- Hyper-vigilance can lead to anxiety, and sometimes OCD-like tendencies.
- Illusions are not very effective. You see through things without wanting to. Conventions and traditions have no significance.
- You do not value what other people value, and often feel truly unique/alone.
- Filtering out the variables and honing your options to something workable can be very difficult.Every solution potentially harbors new problems, new variables and new concerns.
- People may find you to be a little odd, unorthodox or a little intense.
- You have a habit of saying things that do not fit the accepted norm of behavior. You often choose to disregard conventions because they serve no constructive purpose.
- Background noise is a major problem. Noisy neighbors can cause serious stress.

Its About 'Tard

I haven't posted anything in a while and that's why i couldn't be a blogger because i write personal thoughts in a "venting" tone in a public forum. I think of it as my form of therapy. Naturally this mean i need inspiration....and emotionally spark usually in the form of frustration. Bliss numbs my mind. Long story short....Here I am!! Back!...(for how long, I have no idea).

So what subject is bringing me back? Sephora, the international beauty and cosmetic retailer, has just had to put a Kat Von D lipstick called "Celebutard". The Lipstick is a blush tone seen on from classic weddings to many red carpet celebrities like Kim Kardashian. There was outpour of people calling the name "derogatory", "mocking", "insensitive" and "insulting" on the products review page, Twitter,and emails. Apparently several organizations representing Down Syndrome and other developmental disabilities jumped on this too. What is this about?

huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/07/celebutard-lipstick-sephora_n_4233966.html

First let me broaden the scope a little...
Some people went online or in store to:
- Buy $19 lipstick +
- In a color that's the natural color of your lips if you were dead in a morgue +
- created by a women whose legacy is being the mistress to a rock-a-billy man Sandra Bullock  
   mistakenly married +
- that probably includes colors tested on animals and additives that have some toxicity
 And its the name of the product they are concerned with!?!?!

Celebutard was a word co-inspired by Paris Hilton referring to celebrities whose fame was based on publicty stunts and no real talent. Go ahead...Google it. "Retard" is a French word meaning late/slow. It was us, humans, with our creative application of adjectives that turned it into a derogatory term...no different from gay or bitch or black. Celebutard if anything is a mocking of the reality stars who we, the audience, have help rise in stardom for nothing else but creating scripted drama. So whom are these people angry at? the celebutard that thought of naming this lipstick as such? Or us....YOU...for putting it on the news, playing victim, and giving something to "fight" since your own shameful decisions and poorly-developed prioritization skills led you to pick up lipstick from Kat Von D's line to begin with.

When are we going to stop letting words offend us? Why are we giving others so much power and influence over our feelings? Why are we soooo sensitive as a "modern" society about things like this...but Honey Boo Boo lack of age appropriate behavior, Jersey Shore Sexual and alcohol antics, Real Housewife's backstabbing, Bad Girl's fighting, and the Bachelor go on with no major ethics fight. This is not about a product name. This is not about disabilities. This is about how some people have allowed only 4 letters that make a sound that reminds them of pain, struggling, and disadvantage. I can think of other 4 letters ending a word that starts with Bull. I suggest sending letters about wasting money military contracts instead of more on education, small business loans or RESEARCH to aid people with disabilities. This is about priorities... 

Sidenote: I have a lipstick called Chunky Monkey. On behalf of the large women in my family and in the world...on behalf of monkeys that eat too many bananas I'm going to fight to remove it.

Pauldine

Sign of the times: "Verizon Commercial - Dads and Grads Motorola"

When I first saw this commercial, I was with a group of friends...everyone thought is was so cute. I can't put into words exactly how I felt. One word: disheartening

Friday Love vibes: Kevens- Please Don't Leave (acoustic version)

 

Its finally Friday and many of you are looking to let go and relax. I felt it good timing to introduce a friend of mine, Kevens. Having performed all over the world, his sound is smooth, meaningful and deep. Take a few minutes to listen to this acoustic set. Ease in to your weekend.

For more info about this artist, check out his website

• http://www.kevens.com

Cordaid Images: People in need. Doesn't this touch your heart?

Cordaid: People in need

Picture can speak a thousand words.....

THE BEST: Paul Mooney Analyzing White America (not for sensitive ears)

Yes there is a lot of the "N" word. This is Paul Mooney. The man behind Richard Pryor's best years and even Dave Chappelle. Its an hour long...put your headphones and listen to this in the waiting room , office, traffic, gym..wherever

This is GUARANTEED to be one of the funniest sets you've heard in a LONG TIME

pass this along!