Drake ~ The Motto Featuring Lil Wayne & Tyga (Official Video) from OctobersVeryOwn on Vimeo.
So the next time you think you work too hard, wake up too early, are too tired..etc to look your best, remember the Dominican ladies at Dolores beauty Salon.
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A good idea gone wrong....Overstyled pants
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Sometimes even little things like changing your nail color, are the little steps towards breaking pass fears and the "comfort zone". Its just polish! It wipes off...go ahead and try something new? Maybe a cookies and cream?
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Although I was suggested to go classic cocktail, a gut feeling told me that I should go a little more colorful. Besides, it was an event benefiting my Caribbean home, Haiti.
Dress: Matthew Williamson
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Top - bought a while back. Was a dress and I had it made into a top. Taupe.
Pants- Valentino. Blush.
Belt - purchased at a vintage shop
Shoes - BCBG satin cork wedges
Bag - Moyna
Destination: Art Gallery event in Flatiron NYC.
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It’s showtime!
[Hook]
Everyday, they ask how I’m doin
Deuces up playboy I’m coolin
I’m coolin
I’m coolin coolin, I’m coolin coolin
I’m just coolin
I’m coolin coolin, I’m coolin coolin
Everyday, they ask how I’m feelin
You see the ounces playboy I’m chillin
I’m chillin
I’m chillin chillin, I’m chillin chillin
I’m just chillin
I’m chillin chillin, I’m chillin chillin
[Verse 1 - Swizz Beatz]
I got my Balmain on
Plus my Louis on
I got my Christian on
Boy I get this on
You see me ridin Lotus and my top b-tch gone
The interior butter like popcorn
She got on Givenchy, she fresh like me
Everytime she go shoppin Alexander McQueen
I mean, we just coolin on a Sunday
Can’t wait to ball out on Monday
[Hook]
[Verse 2]
My Jaeger-LeCoultre is out ya culture
The hoods on fire man them boys is vultures
We are family la kostra nostra
Go through up and downs like a roller coaster
Ay! Got my cavi- with them gators on ‘em
I’m in the studio fogging with some faders on em
And this beat is my entree
I’m Audi three thousand, Andre
[Hook]
[Verse 3 - Eve]
Evey E, I’m back on my bullsh-t
Came back, came back, back with a full clip
Who want problem, wah- wah- wah-, who want flip
Gun taste, one lick, wanna get some of this
You see that hot pink Birken, that’s a problem
I’m hot like everything kickin I’m a problem
Yeah, I’m a walking bow
You might talk a lil one but ya looks are old
[Hook]
[Outro - Swizz Beatz]
Do ya dance now (x4)
Hit the floor now
Do ya dance now (x2)
Get down now (x4)
Lets work now (x4)
(Jay-Z chorus)
When the money goes will the honey stay?
When the gray skies replace the sunny days
Hey hey hey hey hey hey hey hey
When the money goes will the honey stay?
When the gray skies replace the sunny days
Hey hey hey hey hey hey hey hey
(Fabolous verse 1)
It was all good just, a week ago shoe box full no sneakers though,
Just moved in it's been a week or so,
Brand new coupe so that she could go,
White Bent', light tint ridin' like what the fuck is an indictment?
Spend ten thou' for excitement that's how the day goes that's
How the niqhts went, Louis bags, Balenciagas the ones talked about
By the fashion bloggers, you know me I'm in Murcielago
The same lime green as the Air Max Joggers,
But if it wasn't here will she wanna go? You don't wanna ask,
But you wanna know, will my baby weather the storm?
Stick around till the weather is warm heyy
(Chorus)
(Fabolous verse 2)
[ From: http://www.metrolyrics.com/money-goes-honey-stay-lyrics-fabolous.html ]
She like shoppin', but never trendy, a lil' Gucci, maybe Fendi, Island hoppin' the West Indies
Diddy said got us all about the Benjis, key tile, Phillipe chow Reservations, we can sleep now
Ask how much, I don't allow such, pull a Air Max out cha reptile Clutch,
But who knew that the sky get cloudy, I bought a Ford Range didn't Think she'd be outty
Huh the games over, seized my Range Rover, Feds said somebody gave My name over
Now I'm inside, she's outside, what should you do?
How about ride, guess nothin' last foreva, I thought we could watch These clouds pass togetha but heyy
(Chorus)
(Fabolous verse 3)
You can't ride big, on lil' rims, you wanna do it big? You need a Lil' Kim, raise ya hand hiqh
Look in the man eye I don't know 'em your honor
Can't lie money comes, money goes, so you need to blow it, like a Runny nose
On a lady who ain't turn 180, place none above ya, sweet Sadey Sun Stop shinin'
She neva got shady, she coulda watch them box you in like a Brady But she stood up.
Like what up! It's a cold world, zip the coat, put the hood up That's some sick shit
That's a ill b$%^&, when you dead broke, she make you feel rich
See mama your my Rihanna pull the umbrella when you see drama heyyy
(Chorus)
Within the last week alone, I have had 3 different people I know talk about an ex that is harassing them. THREE PEOPLE in 1 week! I too was dealing with the same issue today hence the inspiration for a new blog post.
Scenario:
There is a break - up. Things like this happen all of the time. We tighten our belts and do our best to suck it up. We go through our emotional rollercoaster, ride ends, our head stops spinning then we move forward and carefully choose our next ride (if we can still hold our lunch from the last one). The time frame for this is subjective. In my own case 5 weeks. You meet someone new. Whether its love or what I like to call, a "bookmark", it works (see my post - "It is what it is"). We feel good, appreciated, comforted, and entertained. Maybe from there we DO find someone else to our surprise or luck. Maybe it’s certain life choices that motivate us to move forward positively and optimistically. Either way, we've CHOSEN to be happy (see post: Positive Poisoning). Then it happens.....the ex comes back for the kill. Between texts, emails, and calls, it’s a bunch of threats, name calling, personal attacks, and angry venting. WTF?
I spent my ME time, gym time, thinking about this. Why is it that when WE stop sulking and progress that the ex positions him/herself for a character assassination?? Is it coincidental? Is it a carefully planned assault? My guess: it’s the disturbing silence.
Let's go back to the rollercoaster analogy. You know that slow climb to the top? The climb that you know will be a gut wrenching drop? Have you ever noticed, even with noise, there is a silence? You can see darkness or the bright sky but it’s nothing...a blank canvas...plus you and your thoughts. That moment can be scarier than the drop itself. THIS is what happens in your ex's mind when the hunt begins. THAT's what happens in YOUR mind when you have that uncontrollable urge to tell them swim in a pool of glass then wash off with alcohol. It’s that BOOM that occurs after the silence. But this post is not about you, it’s about them.
Breaks CAN be fairly easy...breakup, tear, pain, hate, anger, friends, family, the new one, the new thing, time passes, moving on, give me my shit back, you are off my Facebook, maybe we can be friends "later", officially moved on. Pretty simple, right? The only hard part is the time it takes BUT deep down we know months/year(s) from now, it won't be that bad in retrospect. We've gone through this already. but....BUT...there is that one person you come across in your lifetime that won't let anything go even if THEY are the ones that wronged us. It’s like they are wondering "how come after what I did, they are smiling again"? "Are they mocking me with their peace"? "Let me test to see if there is still something there for me to f$%k with". All these questions happen; you guessed it, during the silence. It’s purely an attempt to boost their ego at your expense. It’s for them to feel that they can control and manipulate you at their convenience - help them out of their silence. Think about it...if they were REALLY happy and REALLY busy, they wouldn't have time to create problems and instigate. On the contrary, they would do everything humanly possible to nurture the silence and slither around you to their hole unnoticed. But instead, they:
So going back to silence....
Lama Yashe, author of The Peaceful Stillness of the Silent Mind, writes "at certain times, a silent mind is very important, but silent does not mean closed. The silent mind is an alert, awakened mind; a mind seeking the nature of reality."
The silence in your ex's mind wakes them up to the reality that you truly desire to set yourself free and no longer will act as a crutch to their limp. It’s the anger that they can't have you on strings and have everything else at the same time. It’s the realization............that no matter what they say or how they act...........they actually.............want and need you. You have VALUE or else they would cut all strings and disappear. This is why they push you away but keep you within visible distance or reach. Remember! They invested time in you too!!! So seeing their efforts, comfort zone, the reliable sidekick, and the do-buddy walk away without leaving back any "perks" is a the BOOM in their silence.
Acknowledgment is a form of flattery. Cold disregard and laughter is best remedy. (I wrote that)
Focus on your silence and make your desire to be happy...... your BOOM.
:-)
NOTE: This is dedicated to my new lil lil lil"sis", my big mamma "sis", my techie - Thank you for the personal stories and inspiration. To my Bling BOOMer - love the way you make me feel - acknowledged and important in your life. All of your actions, talk and contact (online and vocal) revolve around getting my attention and controlling me. I must be worth "toying" with. Love you for it. One day maybe we'll be friends but now I'll keep you in the only positive light left - as my BOOM.
