Vajayjay pampering for Valentine's day - Vajazzling

So..I am still single. It has been a year since I was in a relationship and I must say that I have (and am) enjoying focusing on myself for a change. Nonetheless, Valentine's day has a way to creep its ugly head and give us single women this day to remind us that (a) our dating options suck (b) we are alone. I propose thst V-day give us a (c) option : a day where we do something sexy, out-of-box just for our own enjoyment. What have I uncovered? A little beauty secret called Vajazzling.

Vajazzling is a process that has been grown in popularity especially since Jennifer Love Hewitt found it "realeasing" enough to dedicate a chapter to it in her book! Its a process whereby you get a completely bare bikini wax then your "little miss thang" gets blinged out! You can get a preset design or for some extra bucks, a custom design. From a little star to a bikini completely made out of glued on crystals, your vagaygay gets accessorized and ready for ...uh..I dunno.

Now I know what you are saying, well if I'm single, whom will get to see it? Well you are missing the point, its can be your own naughty secret! or if you are into that kind of thing, make a great picture to drunk send to someone you like. As unlady-like as the latter is, I feel it may show a creative side of yourself that someone you've been getting close too had not seen.

If you are married or dating someone, Vajazzling can be a great present you both can share. Granted, you are the one whose poontang is risking a rash or walking unconfortably but, come on...as women, we've endured more pain than that for the sake of pleasing out significant others and ourselves.

http://brazilbronze.com/vajazzeling in NYC

www.beautyofwax.com in Miami

google Vajazzling in your city to find a location that does it!

PS - please don't send me pics. LOL...but I'm more then willing to hear about the experience!

Ladie's Sunday Mimosa - Boobs and things

Ok..This is may be a touchy subject but I'm going to write about it anyway. I received several recommendations to write about the do's and don'ts of reflecting a classy image without sacrificing sex appeal or comfort when on the dating/socializing scene. Considering what I see on a day to day basis, I get the NEED of exploring this issue. Living in Miami, you see it all. This city, as vibrant and liberating as it is to live here, is also one of the most class, fashion-deprived cities in the world. The fashion, personal sense of style, . Its polyester, spandex, shorts and flip flop city and those are the people NOT at the beach.

Many people beleive that sophistication and sex appeal are polar opposites. I don't believe this is true. I think there can be something very sexy about a sophisticated person, that knows how to put themselves together, and "walk the walk".

I started this post by focusing on women but then remembered the several faux pas I've seen men commit so decided to toss them into the mix. Since an individual's appeal starts with first impression then moves to personality/body language, I've sub-divided the gender groups accordingly.

DISCLAIMER: Because there were SO many different things to write about on this subject, I decided to stick to 1 main issue each night of the Valentine's Day week 2011, one for the ladies and 1 for the gents, alternating. Ladies First....

SUNDAY, Valentine's Day eve

LADIES

First Impression

• Underwear and Body parts. I don't see how some women don't suffocate themselves with their own push up bras. They can be so padded and lifted that the collar bone is barely visible! I understand that a woman's bosom can be the highlight of her look and the jewel of her confidence. Nothing wrong with that! But if this is the direction you are going to go, just remember that before a man (or anyone for that matter) can actually get to the point of listening to what you have to say, its going to be an uphill battle. My suggestion is if you are going to proudly display boobage, go more subtle and covered on the rest. An outfit should not have more then 1 major focal point in order to keep it clean and classy. Make sure the bra is not visible, try to stick to solid colored tops, and go light on the "look! tits here" jewelry..trust me, we see 'em...they walked in 2 minutes before did.
  

The tips above also apply to leg and rear-end exposure. If one of these are your
pride and joy, go ahead an expose. Just remember that once your in winter
weather, you look like an idiot walking around in a tight mini with no tights and
open-toed shoes. That, my friends, is a disease I call contra-weather irrational
dressing CWID (I just made it up). If weather permits and legs are the key
ingredient for your outing, put bronzer or non-greasy lotion for a nice , glossy even
look. Bruising, lumps, uneven skin tone, and pale gams are not cute so spend
sometime prepping these bad gals. Remember, even though legs, thighs, and crotch
are all connected, doesn't mean you have to expose all three. Test for potential
crotch shots by touching your knees or walking around the sofa a 3 times. If you
have to any panty flash or had to tug on the skirt more than once, then you are
going to look like "one of those". You know which ones...Put some personality in
your style! Wear the mini with a simple tank and a blazer, fitted dress shirt open up
2-3 buttons down (sexy but not too much), or silky tank. Take some cues from
Gossip Girl, Sex in the City, The City, The Hills and some other shows where the
leading ladies are setting fashionable trends. Most of the characters exude sex
appeal without looking trashy. Now if you watch Girls Next Door, Holly's World or
Jersey Shore and like their outfits, then this blog can't help you...there's just a taste
level issue that is way to corrupted. Sorry.

Personality and Body Language

• "What do you do?", "where do you live?", "Nice car", or glancing at the check while he reaches in his wallet to pay. Any of these seem familiar? I've observed these occurrences a thousand times. You THINK he doesn't notice but he does. It's very obvious most of the time. You are sizing him (or her - equal opportunity here) up. What's worst is when this question is within the first few when getting to know someone. These questions and behavior makes it seem like the answers to these questions are the initial most important ones for you. Unless the person refers to their job often (a turn off of mine) or hints of how far they live, why ask? If its conversation topics you don't have, then here are a few suggestions: What you do for fun? jokes. Movies. Great places to eat. The city and how long you guys have been living there. Are you born and raised there? Sports. FIND COMMON GROUND! Try non offensive jokes or not too humiliating stories to establish a connection. Also be careful not to ask anything too personal or forward such as "do you like kids?" Remember this.. when socializing or dating, your biggest asset once conversation starts is HOW YOU MAKE PEOPLE FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES AND IN YOUR COMPANY. Hanging out with you should be like a mini vacation so keep it light, comfortable just smart and witty. Be patient. You'll get to know everything that you want to know eventually if you want to hang out again. If you don't care to hang out again?...then the answers don't matter anyway

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Counting Petals - Is the feeling real?

Do they love me or love me not? Pluck, pull and watch a false sense of fortune-telling slowly fall to the ground.

SNAP OUT OF IT...

Forget psychics, your horoscope, and what the "others" say. They don't know much more than you do. Hell, you can even forget what I say (written)......but answering the first question should come from your gut. What's the gut? It's your instinct. That's little voice inside of you that says "this is good" and "watch out!" that we sometimes ignore to give into other "talking" parts. How do I know if its telling me the truth? You don't. That's the gamble in life, love, and human interactions in general. We have to take the leap, but a calculated one. Below, I've complied a general list based on several conversations I've had with both male and female friends (varying ages, sexual orientation, social status, race, religion) on how to tell if someone really likes you sincerely, or NOT. Since I, too, have a 50% chance of getting confused between my gut instincts and my hopes, I was happy to realize that no matter how much you think you know, there is always more to learn.

Consider below a list of modern day cues, challenged myths and harmless tests in the search for true feelings. They broken down into categories of "LIKES YOU", "NOT" and WOFT (Watch Out For Thorns). Specific exceptions may follow some of these points indicated by "BUT" (couldn't think of any floral references for this word). As you read, you'll get it. I'm sure the A.D.D is kicking in already...

DISCLAIMER: a) This list in non-exclusive. There are several other thoughts, suggestions and tips I didn't include so don't write me telling me "you forgot to say blah blah". I'm not writing a novel here. b) Just because this list clarifies your questions doesn't mean that they aren't subject to change. Love/Like are emotions and emotions are constantly evolving. Only apply these points, to your situation as it stands now, immediate future or in recent past.

1. Meeting the parents. WOFT. First of all if they live at home, then you kindda have to meet their parents anyway so that negates any voluntary intention. Back in the days, meeting parents were the ultimate approval step. Now? I've heard of parents having breakfast with a 1 night stand. Observe to see if they may have one of those "modern" families where they know about everything and everyone because they have an open-minded mentally. If they say, "Hope you stick around long"...then run.
2. Meeting the best friends. WOFT. This means nothing. Their friends may be the sweetest and coolest people but they may just actually be just that...cool. Their interest is their friend's best interest. If their friend's interest is you on a temporary basis, they'll be cool with it. Don't just start exchanging numbers off the bat and trying too hard to make them like you. BUT if all of their friends are coupled up every time you hang out, this may mean something different. Let your gut tell you if they're just using you to not feel left out though.
3. Friend in Need. LIKES YOU. They are and want to be there for you even when you don't ask for help...not in a "I have nothing better to do" or "I need a hobby" way. They just want to contribute to making things within their capacity, easier for you, without anything in return. For example, you've been working long hours and didn't have time to get food earlier (but you can now), but they still make you dinner or get some for you. Another example, you are stuck at an appointment and need to get stamps before the post office closes. Without needing to ask, they volunteer to get you some and drop them off at your place after work. BUT if they ask you to get naked after helping, every time, or now have a list of favors to ask you all of the time...beware.
4. Overly Jealous. NOT. Most people would say that the jealousy is the sign of someone that just can't bare the thought of losing them. This is not true. Overly jealous people are insecure, possessive, control-freaks, and extremely attention hungry. Someone can not care about you at all and still be jealous! That's because they feel you are their bone (canine analogy) until they are done with you...and EVEN THEN can still want claim on you. There are people who date several people at once and still want each persons' undivided loyalty! Remember, this is a character flaw and most likely will never change so you have to figure out if this is something you can handle giving your personality, lifestyle and habits. BUT, if the jealousy is subtle, quiet, passive and infrequent, then this is a good sign. A little rational jealousy is good. Keeps the other person on their toes and can be an indication that they demand a standard of respect in the relationship. This is very healthy so be understanding.
5. Staring. LIKES YOU. You catch them staring at you once in a while with a subtle smile on their face while you are speaking to others. You are being admired. Relish it. This person finds the simple things you do, your sweat after the gym, and messy hair in the morning - refreshing. This is nice. BUT don't confuse the "wow I'm impressed" stare with the dead on "if we were alone, I would put you in pain for days" stare. The latter can be good idea (not to mention needed once in a while), but good doesn't mean sincere feelings. It may just mean the sexual chemistry is explosive and the true feeling is but a lit match.
   
6. You are better than the ex. I say NOT! Someone that keeps comparing you to their ex is someone that has baggage. Yes, they can reference the ex as a base for comparison from a fresh break up, occasionally. But there are the people, that still have ex's pics everywhere (phone, online, home, etc), complains about them, find excuses to talk about them all of the time, and tells you how much better you are........move on. They need a therapist. BUT if his closest friend or parents mention it once, that's a huge plus. You ARE doing something good. Pat yourself on the back and continue the good work.
7. Extended Cuddling and Sniffing. LIKES YOU. After sex and its still relatively early, they want to pull you closer and hold you all night. They hear/feel them smelling your hair and neck. They just want you close because it makes them feel good. They feel comfortable. This may even occur even when sex isn't involved like at the movies, on a walk through the mall, or at a family barbecue. Don't act like a jerk and coy by asking why they are doing that. You know why. Just let them do it subtly.
8. Relatively Expensive, Hard to Get, or highly Creative Gifts. WOFT. If you are getting what you consider very expensive gifts (what most likely you can't get for yourself usually)...this can go either way. Some people learned growing up and/or believe that respect and loyalty are bought. Those people also believe that everyone has a price. The only good news here is you find out what they think yours is (this may boost confidence or hurt a lot). Examples, multi-millionaire buys you a pair of shoes and a few trinkets....you are priced low. Hotel manager buys tickets to the sold out golf tournaments that you've been dying to go to by combing the internet for weeks...you are priced high. Recent college graduate surprises you by buying oils to give you a personal "spa" afternoon and makes their specialty that takes 2 hours to make.......priced very high. Everything is relative. It depends on person, what the gift is and MORE IMPORTANTLY what thought went into the gift, whether $5 at McDonalds because they know you are hungry LOVE the burgers and fries OR a stunning diamond watch just because it would look great on you. Someone that likes you for real wants it to be just perfect. Its your happiness they want, not just an easy way to brownie points or to boost their own egos.
9. Anytime, Anyplace. LIKES YOU. Example, you are at the hottest party of the year, start to feel tired and say let's go, they just say "ok" or finish their drink , start gathering their things, and initiate their goodbyes. They don't say " not yet..I can't leave my friends"; or "I'm going to the bathroom" then disappear to chat and leave you waiting around; or " You are a party pooper"; or "Have one more drink". If they want a little bit more time, they ask nicely for a reasonable extension like 20 minutes. This person enjoys being where ever you are. Its also great if most of the event, the person was next or within visible proximity to you...not because you asked, they have no friends or they think you'll get jealous. They do it because this is where they CHOOSE to be, PREFER to be. Other example, they may love their every Friday night spot, but you suggest movies and a pizza instead? They are down. A better sign is when they don't need to you invite your friends or theirs all of the time. You should be enough sometimes. BUT remember, everyone needs their personal space and time to be with their closest friends without you. Also beware of the person that ALWAYS wants to be alone with you, meet you at your/their place most of the time, or in "off the beaten path" places that aren't their usual spots. They may be trying to keep your "thing" under wraps for some reason...hummm.
10. They told you so. NOT. This has not, is not and never will be an indicator of whether the person really likes you or not. They might be a good player, or bad at breaking heart,s or they really like you. Who knows?! The only way it may means something more is if the statement is unsolicited, the tone, eye contact, the moment and other factors all play well with each other. This one really requires your gut!!! Always remember.......words don't create as strong memories as actual actions do. No matter what the person says, make sure it matches the little and big things they do combined with enough time to allow these actions to repeat themselves. ALL people behave in patterns. Just like players that pretend to be "good", eventually let their true self out ; the person that is truly sincere will show this over and over again - with you, with others. Observe. Words to live by told by my mother: "You can change someones habits but not character". "A person's past and present, gives hints to their future". Don't let wishful thinking or the beautiful sounds of a 3 word phrase, knock out your senses. BUT Closed mouths don't get fed...just ask if you are ready. listen and watch.

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Jack, Jill, and The Hill - Feeling connected (a poem)

Below is a poem that I wrote inspired by an actual story, but I romanticized it a little for some pizazz. This is Valentine's day around the corner giving me the fuzzy feeling. Besides, I felt the story was touching enough to challenge (improve) my writing ability. Note: As we get older, its A LOT harder to find words that rhyme.....
Inspired by "U".... ENJOY!

Jack and Jill

Like dots in the sky; two collide
A universe made suddenly so small
Jack and Jill accept to enter this ride
Acquaintances but the others eye brought thrall

Having what most others around lacked,
mystery stranger with magnetic smile
how life's luck, Jill met Jack
a sense of closeness, had not been felt in a while

Busy all day but still they made time
for this perfect stranger attraction
Hours spent, moments talking sublime.
On each other, focused, without any distraction

Jack and Jill had formulated a bond
something most have never felt.
A connection, a "click", a correspond,
anticipated daily, most of theirs needs mutually met

No matter in happiness or in sorrow,
priority, face time was key.
Knowing about yesterday, today, tomorrow,
They were each others true loyal devotee.

Jack saw needs more than this, done
desiring the next step for them.
A closer physical link to be one
or else locked in a box, fate would condemn

He picked up the phone, Jill would answer
"My sweetie's voice, he thought.
His news should enchant grace like a dancer
but this announcement only brought distraught

"I've dreamed of this day", Jill would tell
between us, a picture perfect love
But reality has had me dispel
your words delayed, a solution found thereof

Jill had grown up, mind aged from chatting
never uttered those words to Jack.
A hill, Seeing no change; not worth combating
Jill desiring a climb, Jack aware but ignored a lack

Issue is, Jack and Jill never in presense met,
pictorial perspectives; writing brought unity
Screen love like none real yet
comments and messages were months; hinted eternity

Maybe one day, miles will be a step
Jack and Jill to progress yet will remember
A journey they will have kept
password protected, fire not, but yet, still ember.

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